Sometimes I feel like I get nothing done throughout the week, other than the things required for survival… like eating. (And trust me, I have been doing a lot more of that lately) It can be really disheartening when I think of all the things that I would LIKE to do, especially when it seems like the women around me are able to do so much more. Obviously I know that is not the case and I should not be comparing myself and yadayadayada but hey, it happens. And then I find out that they have a cleaning lady or they send their kids to daycare 3 days a week or something like that and I feel like shouting “YES! I’ve discovered your secret!!” Obviously it is not a secret, or they would do a better job of keeping up the facade. They clearly figured out earlier than I did that it doesn’t matter, and it is impossible to do it all.
So anyway, my hero and favorite author Shauna Niequist wrote about this in her newest book Savor, and she made two lists to remind her of the fact that she can’t do everything. She gets to pick what she does. So, following in her footsteps, I have made my own two lists of priorities for this season:
Things I do:
- Grow a baby
- Read a lot (books and blogs)
- Attempt to garden
- Write (for my blog, for a local non-profit, and hopefully eventually a book)
- Cook yummy, healthy meals for my husband and I (and the baby. baby loves to eat)
- Invest in relationships (with my husband, friends, and gals from my church)
- Find good deals so we can stick to our budget (this involves shopping sales, using coupons, thrifting and searching for deals online)
- Help people navigate food and health issues
Things I don’t do:
- Work outside or inside the home (this includes tutoring, making things for Etsy and all those WAHM jobs that make me think “I could do that!”)
- Refinish furniture or other salvaged items (I may have put this on the list just so I would stop buying unfinished pieces with great expectations, only to have them sit in the garage forever)
- CrossFit or other regular workouts that don’t have the word “gentle” in the title
- Deep clean my house on a regular basis (let’s be real, we’re lucky if my husband has enough clean socks for the week)
Seeing my priorities (and non priorities) written out in this way makes it easier for me to say no (or yes!) when opportunities come my way. And when I start to wonder how someone had time to refinish a shabby chic dresser, I can look back and remember that I chose not to do that. Instead I was over here eating homemade granola and reading a book (and loving it!).
What’s on your lists?