Cut a Rug {Day 21}

Keep Calm and Boogie Down...31 days to the altar #shortengagement #music #dancing #weddingsongs #weddingplanning

We spent a lot of time picking the music for our wedding, and I’m not sure it was worth it.

We were adamant that dancing be a big part of our wedding. Turns out the best way to get a crowd on the dance floor is if the bride and groom are out there themselves…and when you have 250 people to talk to, you don’t have a lot of extra time to be dancing. Surprisingly, I’m not as disappointed in the lack of dancing as I thought I would be. I came to the conclusion that I can dance at other people’s weddings, when I don’t have every relative and friend from my whole life waiting to talk to me. I only hope that other people had fun and didn’t feel super awkward on the not-full dance floor.

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My dad’s co-worker volunteered to bring up his gear and do the DJ-ing for our reception. Since we weren’t sure what music he had in his repertoire, we opened a 30-day Spotify trial account and created our own custom playlist. We spent hours analyzing the order of the songs. {When I say ‘we’ I mean this was one of Laszlo’s tasks. While I was working on other things he would push play, and then rank the song according to my reaction- a pause or head nod meant “no,” a slight grove meant “maybe” and a full on rock out meant “yes.”} We had a playlist designated for before the ceremony while guests were waiting, a “mingling” playlist for the beginning of the reception, and of course the “dance party” playlist.

At the end of the day, I have absolutely no recollection of what was played, and I’m guessing none of the guests do either. We probably could have saved ourselves a whole lot of time and headache if we had just given control over to the DJ, with of course, a list of a few do’s and don’ts. {i.e. the chicken dance}

{I haven’t asked my husband his opinion on this. I have a feeling it may be different than mine.)

I do have to say, the best wedding I have been to dance party-wise was kicked off with our all time favorite college dance party song, “Party in the USA.” Normally it’s hard to get people on the dance floor, but that wedding was a completely different story- as soon as the first few notes played, everyone flooded the dance floor and stayed there for the rest of the night. Granted, most people in attendance at that wedding knew each other and were comfortable dancing together. That won’t always be the case, and certainly wasn’t at our wedding. A good trick to keep in mind is that the smaller the dance floor, the fuller it looks!

The best thing to remember is to not fret over the little things. You could barely hear our DJ because for some reason his microphone was muffled, and the wrong song started playing during our first dance. Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t go the exact way you expect it to. You just can’t let the small stuff derail your big day!


One thing that WAS very important to us was the ceremony music. We scoured the internet for appropriate songs, and had those traditional vs. non-traditional discussions that reared their head in every part of our wedding planning. I was adamant that I did not want to enter to The Wedding March or Canon in D or whatever is the traditional processional. So we chose “A Thousand Years” by the Piano Guys, which was perfect because the song hit its crescendo right as it was time for me to walk down the aisle.

We also really wanted to have a couple of hymns at our wedding. We went back and forth since we would have to print programs with the words, but in the end decided it was important enough to us. We have a friend who has played at probably 50 weddings in his lifetime, a few of which have been duets with my dear husband. I felt bad asking him to play at our wedding since he is probably SO sick of it. Laszlo did not feel bad, insisting that he had to say yes since he and his wife were the ones who set us up. SO we asked, he agreed, and it was amazing! We sang In Christ Alone all together {my favorite Keith and Kristyn Getty song and a nod to my time in Northern Ireland} and then Thomas sang How Deep the Father’s Love for Us while Laszlo and I took communion. I’m so glad Thomas was willing to add another wedding to his list; it was really special to have him be a part since he played such a huge role in getting us together.


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